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3 days ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

Every day I wake up and ask myself, "What is one step I can take that inches my way through my fears and closer to my authentic, passionate, and true desires?".

Itโ€™s not easy, especially with ADHD.

Iโ€™ve had many setbacks in my life that stopped me dead in my tracks for years. ADHD has played a central role in my struggles, and yet what kept me most paralyzed was fear and doubt. I was believing every story I told myself, instead of gently challenging them.

What I've been doing for many years now, is intentionally choosing to focus on remembering that I AM thriving, influencing, shifting, stretching, and moving in the direction I want to go, even if there are days it is painstakingly slow.

What I work on (individually and with my clients) is creating a mindset of kindness and acceptance of the pace as we inch toward our goals. Yes, even on the days only one thing is checked off the list.

Keeping this mindset, and staying on your path moving forward, is often the most successful with support.

When you need someone in your corner with a nonjudgmental ear and a few ideas, send me a DM for a free consult. I look forward to hearing from you.
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As an ADHDer, have you ever felt like this?

One day you feel on track, checking items off your list and feeling accomplished, but the next day, each task feels overwhelming and you can't seem to motivate or focus on anything. The day feels like a waste and you beat yourself up for failing... again.

What are the stories or messages you tell yourself?
"Why can't I just do it?!"
"I'll never accomplish anything."
"What is wrong with me?!" are a few that enter MY mind.

Now imagine looking at these ups and downs through a different lens.

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ Could it be that your brain needs more tools to be successful (an assistant, a coach?!)?

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ Could it be that you are making progress, but only focusing on the negatives because they are so loud and obvious?

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ Could it be that NOTHING is wrong with you, and you need support to guide you toward a different mindset and offer you tools to help you find success?

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ Could it be that your ADHD child needs you to help yourself, so you can help them do the same?

Support and education have moved mountains for me.
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4 weeks ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

As a kid I was labeled as too sensitive, which is directly linked to ADHD.

It was hurtful and caused a lot of pain. I doubted my worth and wondered why I couldnโ€™t be โ€œgood.โ€

I needed my parents to honor that piece of me with curiosity and compassion. I also needed them to see me as a whole person, not always through the lens of being overly sensitive. I know now they were merely describing a behavior of mine that caused them to struggle, feel fearful, and overwhelmed.

We can serve ourselves and our kids best when we remember to look at behavior as a communication tool. They need something from us, yet are unable to directly ask.

Our kids need us to see past their ADHD behaviors and recognize theyโ€™re not purposeful and are only a small part of their experience.

Itโ€™s possible to shift how we interact with our kids, it only takes a willingness to be brave.

What labels have you used with your kids? ๐ŸŒฑ
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ADHD can wreak havoc on our lives. It interferes with school or work, home life, relationships, and our self-esteem. Because of this, it's no wonder we often get hyper-focused on the problems associated with it.

Here's the thing, our minds operate differently. We are not broken, nor are our kids. Society is still catching up to this idea, making it challenging at times, and it is shifting. Our job is to advocate for ourselves and our kids by focusing on our strengths too.

Whenever my ADHD struggles feel like they are getting the upper hand, I pause and remind myself of my strengths. I am very sensitive and notice nuances about people that others miss, I always find a way to accomplish my tasks...eventually ๐Ÿ™‚ because of my ability to look at solving problems in new and "out of the box" ways.

Focusing on what I can do, versus what I struggle with, shifts my mindset and aids me in moving forward. What positive attributes about yourself or your child, can you move toward?

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ADHD can wreak havoc on our lives. It interferes with school or work, home life, relationships, and our self-esteem. Because of this, its no wonder we often get hyper-focused on the problems associated with it. 

Heres the thing, our minds operate differently. We are not broken, nor are our kids. Society is still catching up to this idea, making it challenging at times, and it is shifting. Our job is to advocate for ourselves and our kids by focusing on our strengths too. 

Whenever my ADHD struggles feel like they are getting the upper hand, I pause and remind myself of my strengths. I am very sensitive and notice nuances about people that others miss, I always find a way to accomplish my tasks...eventually :) because of my ability to look at solving problems in new and out of the box ways. 

Focusing on what I can do, versus what I struggle with, shifts my mindset and aids me in moving forward. What positive attributes about yourself or your child, can you move toward?

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1 month ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

The ADHD brain has a lot going on ALL๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป THE๐Ÿ‘๐ŸปTIME๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป with no off switch. With a constant flow of information coming in, it can be distracting, overwhelming, and difficult to sift through.

Keep in mind your child is unable to tell you about this and you aren't able to see it either. What you do see is behaviors, often challenging ones. They are communicating to you to pay attention.

Your child needs you to notice they are struggling. Start by staying curious about these behaviors and their source and help them have more success by anticipating what they need. A few ideas could be breaking up a task for them, giving them a movement break, or adjusting your expectations to fit THEIR normal.

Does this sound familiar?
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1 month ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

Children need limits.

No matter how much your child fights back, cries, throws a tantrum, or stomps off and slams their door, limits are what helps them understand why we value certain behaviors.

Swipe through these slides ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ to see WHY limits can be helpful.
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Check out these ideas on how to respond to common struggles.

Keep in mind - our words have SO much power to either make behaviors better or worse. For those of us with ADHD, sometimes words fly out of our mouths with much forethought.

Aim for responding thoughtfully, and for the times you react with anger or disengagement, be gentle with yourself and try again.

Take responsibility for your reactivity by checking in with your child.
Tell them how you imagine it made them feel when you yelled or when you ignored them. Then mention what you are working on doing instead.

Doing so, role models the skill of owning our actions. It will also teach your child itโ€™s alright to make mistakes and permission to try again.
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Check out these ideas on how to respond to common struggles. 

Keep in mind - our words have SO much power to either make behaviors better or worse. For those of us with ADHD, sometimes words fly out of our mouths with much forethought. 

Aim for responding thoughtfully, and for the times you react with anger or disengagement, be gentle with yourself and try again. 

Take responsibility for your reactivity by checking in with your child. 
Tell them how you imagine it made them feel when you yelled or when you ignored them. Then mention what you are working on doing instead. 

Doing so, role models the skill of owning our actions. It will also teach your child itโ€™s alright to make mistakes and permission to try again.
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Today is a difficult day. A student from my children's High School was found deceased in the near by river. Many parts of the story are full of speculation and skepticism.

Was it suicide or murder?
Did the fact that the student was transgender affect the media's response, or lack of, to help bring this child home?
I can't say anything definitively, but I can say how I observed and heard many disturbing stories.

I am posting about this here because it directly relates to our parenting. Whether it is suicide, sexual orientation, race, politics, abortion, family conflicts or death; it is so important to talk to your children about these topics.

Start with listening and asking questions, with the goal being to learn about what your child has heard and how they feel about it. Even if you completely disagree with their thoughts, it's not the time to correct or lecture them.

Be curious about why they feel or believe what they do. Remember our kids are individuals with exposure to separate experiences and see situations from their own unique lens.

I personally would rather have a child who follows her own path and lives her own truth. Me forcing my beliefs without flexibility would likely push her away. The result could then be having no relationship at all.
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Today is a difficult day. A student from my childrens High School was found deceased in the near by river. Many parts of the story are full of speculation and skepticism. 

Was it suicide or murder? 
Did the fact that the student was transgender affect the medias response, or lack of, to help bring this child home? 
I cant say anything definitively, but I can say how I observed and heard many disturbing stories.

I am posting about this here because it directly relates to our parenting. Whether it is suicide, sexual orientation, race, politics, abortion, family conflicts or death; it is so important to talk to your children about these topics. 

Start with listening and asking questions, with the goal being to learn about what your child has heard and how they feel about it. Even if you completely disagree with their thoughts, its not the time to correct or lecture them. 

Be curious about why they feel or believe what they do. Remember our kids are individuals with exposure to separate experiences and see situations from their own unique lens. 

I personally would rather have a child who follows her own path and lives her own truth. Me forcing my beliefs without flexibility would likely push her away. The result could then be having no relationship at all. 
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3 months ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

Children and adults who are sensitive to rejection, often misinterpret the behaviors of others.

For example, your child complains that their friend gave them a rude look at school. They are wondering either what they did wrong, or why their friend was so rude. They begin to talk and obsess about it, or sit silently stewing in their thoughts. You then hear they are compelled to confront the friend causing a fight, or pull away causing the friendship to end, in order to settle down their nervous system.

Yet, when they finally ask the friend what happened, the friend doesn't even remember what they are referring to, because to them, it was an insignificant moment having nothing to do with them.

The part of a neurotypical brain (one without ADHD) that takes in information, pauses, and decides if it is important is different in our brains. Our brains often do not have the ability to pause and decide whether the event occurring is worth our attention. Instead everything comes in, we often misinterpret its meaning, and later feel confused, angry, or overwhelmed with what to do. On a scale from 1-10, having ADHD without tools to assist us, many situations feel like a 10, and our brains are often hijacked for hours or even days.

Please know that we, and our kids, do NOT do this on purpose! Remember ๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ step into your child's world and see the situation through their eyes. Then try these ideas to support them, and yourself.
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3 months ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

Have you ever gone through a strange situation and needed to talk about it with someone... and then the conversation turns into them telling you about a similar situation they went through?

While I still appreciate my friend being there for me, sometimes we need someone to only hear our story and recognize the pain we are going through.

For our children: ๐Ÿ‘ง๐Ÿป๐Ÿง’๐Ÿพ

Empathy is a CHOICE we make to see our childโ€™s experience as their truth, with no judgment or agenda.

Empathy is the ability to notice their struggles and feel their pain WITH them, even when it seems trivial to us.

Empathy is NOT- sympathy, explaining or analyzing the situation, telling your story, educating, or finding a silver lining.

Empathy gives our children a deep sense of feeling heard, resulting in emotional security and a stronger connection with us.

When we feel understood and valued, defensiveness melts away and connection is available.

Through connection, ๐Ÿค cooperation occurs.

I highly encourage you to check out Brenรฉ Brown's video "Empathy vs Sympathy" on YouTube.
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Have you ever gone through a strange situation and needed to talk about it with someone... and then the conversation turns into them telling you about a similar situation they went through?

While I still appreciate my friend being there for me, sometimes we need someone to only hear our story and recognize the pain we are going through.

For our children: ๐Ÿ‘ง๐Ÿป๐Ÿง’๐Ÿพ

Empathy is a CHOICE we make to see our childโ€™s experience as their truth, with no judgment or agenda. 

Empathy is the ability to notice their struggles and feel their pain WITH them, even when it seems trivial to us.

Empathy is NOT- sympathy, explaining or analyzing the situation, telling your story, educating, or finding a silver lining.

Empathy gives our children a deep sense of feeling heard, resulting in emotional security and a stronger connection with us.

When we feel understood and valued, defensiveness melts away and connection is available.

Through connection, ๐Ÿค cooperation occurs. 

I highly encourage you to check out Brenรฉ Browns video Empathy vs Sympathy on YouTube. 
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