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2 weeks ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

Children and adults who are sensitive to rejection, often misinterpret the behaviors of others.

For example, your child complains that their friend gave them a rude look at school. They are wondering either what they did wrong, or why their friend was so rude. They begin to talk and obsess about it, or sit silently stewing in their thoughts. You then hear they are compelled to confront the friend causing a fight, or pull away causing the friendship to end, in order to settle down their nervous system.

Yet, when they finally ask the friend what happened, the friend doesn't even remember what they are referring to, because to them, it was an insignificant moment having nothing to do with them.

The part of a neurotypical brain (one without ADHD) that takes in information, pauses, and decides if it is important is different in our brains. Our brains often do not have the ability to pause and decide whether the event occurring is worth our attention. Instead everything comes in, we often misinterpret its meaning, and later feel confused, angry, or overwhelmed with what to do. On a scale from 1-10, having ADHD without tools to assist us, many situations feel like a 10, and our brains are often hijacked for hours or even days.

Please know that we, and our kids, do NOT do this on purpose! Remember πŸ‘‰πŸΌ step into your child's world and see the situation through their eyes. Then try these ideas to support them, and yourself.
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3 weeks ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

Have you ever gone through a strange situation and needed to talk about it with someone... and then the conversation turns into them telling you about a similar situation they went through?

While I still appreciate my friend being there for me, sometimes we need someone to only hear our story and recognize the pain we are going through.

For our children: πŸ‘§πŸ»πŸ§’πŸΎ

Empathy is a CHOICE we make to see our child’s experience as their truth, with no judgment or agenda.

Empathy is the ability to notice their struggles and feel their pain WITH them, even when it seems trivial to us.

Empathy is NOT- sympathy, explaining or analyzing the situation, telling your story, educating, or finding a silver lining.

Empathy gives our children a deep sense of feeling heard, resulting in emotional security and a stronger connection with us.

When we feel understood and valued, defensiveness melts away and connection is available.

Through connection, 🀝 cooperation occurs.

I highly encourage you to check out BrenΓ© Brown's video "Empathy vs Sympathy" on YouTube.
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Have you ever gone through a strange situation and needed to talk about it with someone... and then the conversation turns into them telling you about a similar situation they went through?

While I still appreciate my friend being there for me, sometimes we need someone to only hear our story and recognize the pain we are going through.

For our children: πŸ‘§πŸ»πŸ§’πŸΎ

Empathy is a CHOICE we make to see our child’s experience as their truth, with no judgment or agenda. 

Empathy is the ability to notice their struggles and feel their pain WITH them, even when it seems trivial to us.

Empathy is NOT- sympathy, explaining or analyzing the situation, telling your story, educating, or finding a silver lining.

Empathy gives our children a deep sense of feeling heard, resulting in emotional security and a stronger connection with us.

When we feel understood and valued, defensiveness melts away and connection is available.

Through connection, 🀝 cooperation occurs. 

I highly encourage you to check out BrenΓ© Browns video Empathy vs Sympathy on YouTube. 
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As a parent of 3 girls, it can often be challenging to find what works for each of them when setting limits, working through emotions, and guiding them toward independence. When we encounter difficult behaviors, some of us use strategies that draw us away from connecting with our kids.

Whether you find yourself using πŸ‘†πŸΌ Power Over Parenting, πŸ‘‡πŸΌ Power Under Parenting, or a combination of each, there is no shame or guilt needed. When we use these methods, it's often because we ourselves are coping with stress. Parenting is amazing and also very challenging.

I encourage you to pick one behavior from the list and begin to pay attention to when it happens the most. Then start to identify why it is difficult for you.

For example, if you have a hard time setting boundaries when your child wants you to spend more time with them, even though you HAVE most of the day, ask yourself, why am I resistant? Could it be that you feel it is selfish to prioritize your own needs, or maybe you were ignored as a child and you never want your child to feel the way you did? Building awareness around why we act the way we do, will make it easier to find compassion for your child's struggles.

When you're ready for some support and guidance, send me a message to schedule a free discovery session.
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As a parent of 3 girls, it can often be challenging to find what works for each of them when setting limits, working through emotions, and guiding them toward independence. When we encounter difficult behaviors, some of us use strategies that draw us away from connecting with our kids.

Whether you find yourself using πŸ‘†πŸΌ Power Over Parenting, πŸ‘‡πŸΌ Power Under Parenting, or a combination of each, there is no shame or guilt needed. When we use these methods, its often because we ourselves are coping with stress. Parenting is amazing and also very challenging.

I encourage you to pick one behavior from the list and begin to pay attention to when it happens the most. Then start to identify why it is difficult for you. 

For example, if you have a hard time setting boundaries when your child wants you to spend more time with them, even though you HAVE most of the day, ask yourself, why am I resistant?  Could it be that you feel it is selfish to prioritize your own needs, or maybe you were ignored as a child and you never want your child to feel the way you did? Building awareness around why we act the way we do, will make it easier to find compassion for your childs struggles.

When youre ready for some support and guidance, send me a message to schedule a free discovery session.
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2 months ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

You are doing the best you can with what you have available to you.
Your negative beliefs aren't facts.
You are not expected to be perfect.
You matter in this world.

Whatever you have done, is done.
Begin to forgive yourself by reflecting on what you were needing at the time.

What were you experiencing?
Did you yell at your child to do their chores because they haven't listened, or because you feel overextended, stressed, and overwhelmed?

Often our big reactions to our children are connected to OUR needs, not THEIR behavior.

This awareness is how we begin to forgive. How can we forgive our kids, if we don't do the same for ourselves? It's all connected.
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You are doing the best you can with what you have available to you.
Your negative beliefs arent facts. 
You are not expected to be perfect.
You matter in this world.

Whatever you have done, is done. 
Begin to forgive yourself by reflecting on what you were needing at the time. 

What were you experiencing? 
Did you yell at your child to do their chores because they havent listened, or because you feel overextended, stressed, and overwhelmed? 

Often our big reactions to our children are connected to OUR needs, not THEIR behavior. 

This awareness is how we begin to forgive. How can we forgive our kids, if we dont do the same for ourselves? Its all connected. 
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When your child has a meltdown do you tend to feel angry, overwhelmed and helpless?

What stories start playing in your mind?
Maybe, "What is wrong with this child, why won't they listen?!"
...or "What is wrong with me, why can't I figure this out?!"

There's nothing wrong with either of you.

When we get upset, we need to release that energy. Our children don't have the capacity to do so in healthy ways...yet.

Here are a few tips on how to help your child move through their emotions

πŸ‘‰πŸΌ Hold a space of safety, empathy and openness. Allow, without judgment, the release of emotions and remember it is not personal.
πŸ‘‰πŸΌ Move slow and low with a soft voice, while reminding them they are safe and big feelings are normal. Younger kids, be physically nearby modeling calm. Older kids, check on them quietly and calmly while they are upset.
πŸ‘‰πŸΌ Offer a calming tool. Discover what helps each member of the family feel better when they are upset, then you will have it ready.
πŸ‘‰πŸΌ When completely calm, be open and curious about what happened. It is not time to fix. Validate your child's experience. What was it like for them?

Have questions? Send me a DM or head over to my website to see other ways I can help.
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When your child has a meltdown do you tend to feel angry, overwhelmed and helpless?

What stories start playing in your mind? 
Maybe, What is wrong with this child, why wont they listen?! 
...or What is wrong with me, why cant I figure this out?! 

Theres nothing wrong with either of you. 

When we get upset, we need to release that energy. Our children dont have the capacity to do so in healthy ways...yet.

Here are a few tips on how to help your child move through their emotions

πŸ‘‰πŸΌ Hold a space of safety, empathy and openness.  Allow, without judgment, the release of emotions and remember it is not personal.
πŸ‘‰πŸΌ Move slow and low with a soft voice, while reminding them they are safe and big feelings are normal. Younger kids, be physically nearby modeling calm. Older kids, check on them quietly and calmly while they are upset.
πŸ‘‰πŸΌ Offer a calming tool. Discover what helps each member of the family feel better when they are upset, then you will have it ready.
πŸ‘‰πŸΌ When completely calm, be open and curious about what happened. It is not time to fix. Validate your childs experience. What was it like for them?

Have questions? Send me a DM or head over to my website to see other ways I can help.
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3 months ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

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Your child is screaming, crying, and laying all over the floor at the grocery store... and every time you try to pick them up, they go completely limp and are heavier than an elephant....

How's your blood pressure?
... what about your stress level?

I know it's hard to keep calm in this situation!

Take a swipe πŸ‘‰πŸΌ through the slides to see some of my recommendations on how to calm back down and support your child.

Have you ever experienced this? Tell me in the comments what you did, and how the outcome was?
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5 months ago
Fresh Parenting Perspectives

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Is it time to let go of the guilt and shame, or the anger and sadness? The way we show up for others begins with how we show up for ourselves. Curious how Parent Coaching helps? Let’s have a conversation. 🌱

#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums #parentingteens
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstrugglesinkids
#curiosityinparenting
#anxiety
#helpmeparent
#shame
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Is it time to let go of the guilt and shame, or the anger and sadness? The way we show up for others begins with how we show up for ourselves.  Curious how Parent Coaching helps? Let’s have a conversation. 🌱 

 #adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums #parentingteens
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstrugglesinkids
#curiosityinparenting
#anxiety
#helpmeparent
#shame

Is it that your kids are giving you a hard time, or are they HAVING a hard time? So often difficult behaviors are used as a way of seeking help. Our kids may not know how to do it any other way. What do you think? 🌱

#adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums #parentingteens
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstrugglesinkids
#curiosityinparenting
#anxiety
#helpmeparent
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Is it that your kids are giving you a hard time, or are they HAVING a hard time? So often difficult behaviors are used as a way of seeking help.  Our kids may not know how to do it any other way. What do you think? 🌱

 #adhd #adhdparenting #adhdparents #anxiety #parentingtips #parenting #moms #dads #adhdmoms #adhddads #moodykids #parentingadhd #youdontgetit #misunderstoodkids #consciousparenting
#emotionaloutbursts
#tantrums #parentingteens
#angrykids
#anxiouskids
#adhdkids
#shame
#mindsetmatters
#painfulchildhood
#childhoodtrauma
#empathicparenting
#sleepstrugglesinkids
#curiosityinparenting
#anxiety
#helpmeparent
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